Online Dating: First Date Nerves:

Online Dating: First Date Nerves:

Ok Ladies and Gentlemen you’ve found the potential match online and have arranged that all important first date. Now I know a lot of people out there let their nerves get the better of them. So we have created some top hints and tips for you..

1. Be interested and interesting. Make eye contact with your date, smile and listen. Your date will feel at ease if you take interest in them. This in turn will help you feel at ease and enjoy the date more.

2. You can’t remain silent the whole date, but if you are uncomfortable talking about yourself ask them some questions too break the ice.

3. Make sure you use open ended questions i.e. ‘Do you work?’ Closed question ‘What do you work as?’ Open question.

4. Find something you have in common. Are you both movie buffs? Or have you shared a similar experience i.e. travelling.

5. Add in a compliment, but don’t go overboard something along the lines of ‘I like your shirt or dress’ is adequate at this stage .

Please remember ladies and gents, it is not an interview, you don’t need to list all your achievements, just find out if there’s that all important spark.

Remember, if the person isn’t your perfect match, there are plenty more daters out there and you have just been given the perfect opportunity to practise you dating techniques.

Good Luck TheOneThatYouWant x

Online Dating Advice: It’s looking good ........

Online Dating Advice: It’s looking good....

You don’t have to be a genius to figure out if someone likes you or not. However while concentrating on having an enjoyable evening, you don’t want to be worrying about whether your date likes you or not. Below, are some simple hot tips that will help you gauge whether you’re date is attracted to you; or if they are the potential OneThatYouWant. This applies to both men and women.

1.Does your date greet you with a smile? What is their immediate reaction to you?

2.Does your date constantly check their watch? This may suggest that the time they wish to spend with you is limited.

3.Does your date make a point about when they need to leave? Furthermore do they accept or decline that one last drink at the end of the night. Accepting one last drink may suggest that they want to spend as much time as possible with you.

4.Is your date focused on you, or are they too interested in what or who else is happening in the room?

5.Do they ask you questions about yourself? If they are interested in you then they are interested in what you are about.

So you’ve had the first date, now check out the below post date advice to see if you’ve found TheOneThatYouWant!

6.Generally if your date went well he or she will thank you for a lovely evening (probably by text/email) and suggest doing it again soon.

7.Keep an eye on those kisses (on text). If you get one kiss, that’s a good start, two kisses and you’re in; three and you’ve cracked it.

8.How soon after the first date do you arrange that all important second date? If it’s within a week then your full steam ahead!

Have fun guys and gals and always remember there’s plenty more fish in the sea.

Online Dating Safety Tips

Online Dating Safety Tips

Online dating is the best possible way to meet new people you never normally would have come into contact with. Every year, thousands of people get together or even marry as a result of meeting on an online dating website. Millions of people in the UK are using online dating right now and as a general rule, online dating is regarded as a safe medium for meeting potential partners.

However we want to ensure your online dating experience is as safe and fun as possible. So below we have created 10 top tips for Online Dating.

1. Trust Your Gut. Your gut feeling is a powerful medium for knowing when something doesn't feel right. As you are searching for TheOneThatYouWant and are browsing profiles, responding to emails and meeting people for dates your instincts help tell you if something is "right" or if something is not quite right. The "not quite right" message is your cue to be careful....Always trust your gut!

2. Never Provide Personal Information Too Soon. Your home phone number and full name provide easy ways to track who you are and where you live. So keep your personal information personal until you get to know the individual.

3. Ask for a Recent Photo. There's nothing wrong in asking someone if their photos are recent. If they don't have a photo, request a recent one. It's important for you to get a good look at the person you may eventually meet.

4. Stick with Paid Online Dating Websites. Free online dating services provide a great opportunity for potentially dangerous individuals. They don't even have to provide a credit card or other information that identifies them. There is truth in saying, "you get what you pay for".

5. Make your own way there. Provide your own transportation to your public meeting place and make sure you have a way of getting home i.e. taxis numbers in your phone and cash or petrol in your car.

6. Always let a friend or family member know where you are going. Make sure someone knows where you are going and who you'll be with. You might even consider arranging a time to call and check in. Or you could arrange to meet up with a friend later that night.

7. Arrange to meet them. When meeting for the first time, never allow your date to pick you up from your home.

8. Meet in a Public Place for Your First Meeting. When it's time for that first exciting face-to-face meeting, arrange to meet in a public place. Your initial meeting will tell you a lot about the other person, including whether or not he/she lied in their profile.

9. Alcohol will affect your judgment. The biggest threat to your judgment is alcohol. Not only does it affect your judgment, but alcohol also lessens your inhibitions. Don’t get so drunk that you don’t know what you are doing, and if possible try to avoid alcohol on your first date.

10. Always remain alert. Even if you’re having a great time and everything’s going really well, it’s still a good idea to remain alert the whole evening.

By following these tips you will help protect yourself from any potential dangers. With that in mind, thousands of people have fulfilling relationships from online dating. As you can see, the experience can be both safe and rewarding.

Online Dating Advice: Writing a Winning Profile

Writing a Winning Profile

Your online personal profile can be a terrific tool to endear TheOneThatYouWant. Using the online dating route is a good idea because it gives you the opportunity to meet people outside of your normal circle of friends and colleagues.

The way you write a personal online profile is crucial: it will mean the difference between finding TheOneThatYouWant and falling flat.

There's something about your ad ...Follow these simple steps and increase your chances of finding TheOneThatYouWant!

Talk yourself up ... but stay sincere and true. What qualities do you have that another dater maybe looking for? What would your friends say your best qualities are? It’s essential that you mention these in your online dating profile. Don't be afraid to be honest about your good points, after all that's what other daters are looking for.

Keep the style fun and not too formal. 'If you have fun writing it, the reader will likely have fun reading it,' says author Evan Marc Katz in I Can't Believe I'm Buying This Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating (Ten Speed Press, 2003). In writing about who you are as well as about what characteristics you're looking for, write the way you talk, in a creative way that will win people over and warm them to you.

Choose words carefully. Ok, if you see an online profile with ‘looking for a wealthy man’ or ‘wanted.... stunning woman’. Most people will think you are a gold digger, superficial or shallow. However what you are actually looking for is a partner; who is ambitious or fit, and this is much less offensive. Words have a huge impact in the world of online dating, after all words are your tools.

Read over what you're about to submit online. Review your writing so it's grammatically correct and typo-free. You would be amazed what you can forget OR mistype. Other daters WILL pick up on this.

Keep It Positive: Please Peeps....

Online Dating – Where to go on A Date.

Online Dating – Where to go on a date.

I am sure you all have your own ideas for this and we would never dictate to you where you should be taking your date. However, dating in general does have a certain set of rules that will help your date be as successful as possible.

The aim of a FIRST date is to initially find out if you like the person. Not necessarily in terms of looks, because you will have established that pretty quickly if you haven’t already; but to see if you are compatible socially and to gauge the other person personally. So, you need to choose a dating location that isn't detrimental to your evening.

Where ever you choose to go on a date, the ability to talk without being interrupted by others is imperative. Also choosing somewhere where you are likely to bump into people you know may be obstructive to your evening.

Choose an activity you can do together and not something that separates you. Sometimes being too creative can appear a bit too heavy going and be off putting to your date. There is always date ONE and TWO for this. Likewise with picking really expensive evenings that may make your date feel awkward OR make you look like you’re trying too hard. These things can have a negative effect!

Loud music is a big obstacle while on a first date, this often prevents good conversation.

What works well on a date is a comfortable environment where other couples may go to socialize. Meeting for a coffee or even lunch in a nice bar or pub is an option. Sometimes meeting in a shopping centre for a drink and a mooch round the shops will help you to get a sense of what the other person likes and opens up some great conversation.

Dating is a ritual and before most dates it is normal to be nervous. This is often because of ‘fear of the unknown.’ We meet new people all the time, but with 'dating' there is a certain level of pressure and uncertainty that meeting other people in every day life doesn’t bring.

One way to ease the pressure during dating or prior to going on a date is to call your date up. This allows you to understand their social and emotional behavior better and form a more grounded relationship. Hearing a voice is important and something you cannot gauge just by email.

If your online dating is going well and you are successfully arranging dates, it is safe to assume at this point you have exchanged numbers. A quick call a few days before and maybe on the day to make sure everything is going ahead as planned is ok. If you wanted to add a bit of quirkiness to it, call your date if you are first to arrive, ask them what they would like from the bar!

Of course your expectations are more likely to be met if you chat over the phone, as it is quite easy to build up an image in your mind of what your date will sound like as well as look like. Too many surprises while dating can sometimes be a distraction. Dating should be a fun and enjoyable experience, so ensure that your evening goes without a glitch.

Online Dating – Before The Date

Online Dating – Before The Date

Dating is a ritual and before most dates it is normal to be nervous. This is often because of ‘fear of the unknown. We meet new people all the time, but with 'dating' there is a certain level of pressure and uncertainty that meeting people in every day life doesn’t bring. One way to ease the pressure during dating or prior to going on a date is to call your date up. This allows you to understand their social and emotional behavior better and form a more grounded relationship,hearing a voice is important and something you cannot gauge just by email. If your online dating is going well and you are successfully arranging dates, it is safe to assume at this point you have exchanged numbers, so a quick call a few days before also maybe on the day to make sure everything is still O.K. If you wanted to a bit of quirkiness to it, call your date if you are first to arrive, ask them what they would like from the bar! Of course your expectations are more likely to be met if you chat over the phone, as it is quite easy to build up an image in your mind of what your date will sound like as well as look like. Too many surprises while dating can sometimes be a distraction. Dating should be a fun and enjoyable experience, so ensure that your evening goes without a glitch.

Good luck Love TheOneThatYouWant x

Online Dating – Email Etiquette

Online Dating – Email Etiquette.

Online Dating can often seem a complex and daunting task if you are new to online dating. However, online dating is the fastest and most successful way to meet new people. More singles now meet online than through work or friends. In fact 30 million Britain's have used one or more online dating sites to meet new people at some point. To ensure that your online dating experience is a fun and successful one; we have compiled a basic list of the DO’s and DONT’s of e-mail etiquette when online.

Do

• Address your date by his or her first name; this makes it feel more intimate.

• Let your personality shine through.

• When online dating, ensure you are polite and courteous at all times.

• Show an interest in your date’s previous online messages and what they have to say in general.

• Put thought and effort into personal messages rather than saying the bear minimum to save time.

Don’t

• Continue to message people who have not responded to you or have declined you.

• Send the same message to lots of different people. This could be thought of as spamming.

• Sell your life story while online dating. This may creep people out.

• Lie about important information about yourself. Do not give misleading information.

• Give out personal and sensitive information while online dating. At least until you are sure about your potential match.

TheOneThatYouWant Top 10 Tips for Online Dating

TheOneThatYouWant Top 10 Tips for Online Dating:

To help you find Mr. or Mrs. Right in the world of Online Dating, we have broken down the Top 10 online dating advice tips to help increase your success so you can date smarter and safer, and meet TheOneThatYouWant!

General pointers:

1. Take time to write a careful winning online profile. Be open and honest about yourself; what’s the point in lying? The truth will come out eventually should you meet the dater. You wouldn’t want other people to mislead you online so don’t do it to others.

2. Describe the person that you would like to meet in detail. If you want to date someone who has never been married with any children, say so.

3. Spend time on your profile describing your interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes. It is just as important to describe what you like, as well as what you dislike. This will help attract someone with similar interests.

4. Add more than one photo to your profile. Your main photo should be a clear head shot, preferably with you smiling so you look approachable. Refrain from uploading shots that are too sexy or crude as you may attract the wrong type of date. A profile with a photo gets over 9 times the amount of replies than one without.

5. Have plenty of fun. The most important thing when meeting new people is to relax and have fun. When beginning your relationship online by email, be private and cautious, but don't be too serious either, find a balance. A sense of humor online is just as important as offline.

6. Update your profile occasionally to keep it fresh. For instance, if you just got back from a great holiday put some new pictures on. There is nothing more boring than reading a generic online dating profile that says “I love to travel and enjoy films.” Where do you like to travel to and why? What type of films do you enjoy watching and why? The more detail, the better; and the more chance you have of meeting someone who has similar interests.

7. Always be polite when communicating on an online dating site. If you are scared to tell someone “no” because it may hurt their feelings, simply tell them politely that you are looking for a certain type of person and not to take it personally. If someone is rude to you or offends you, simply ignore them and/or block them.

8. Do not give out personal details such as your last name or mobile early on. You should definitely not include these in your profile until you are comfortable and have got to know the person. Most websites will have strict rules on this.

9. Listen to your intuition. If something doesn't feel right to you, it usually isn't. Your instincts will play a large part in your online dating experience.

10. Always meet in a public place for the first time. A good place to meet is for coffee or lunch in a busy place. Make sure you let someone know where you will be and who you are with.

Online Dating Tips for Men

Getting the Girl Online: The Rules of the Game

• If you like a girl let her know. She is not a mind reader.
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• Message her online, flirt with her online or add her to your hot list online.
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• Once you do start talking to a girl you like, don’t start stalking her on Facebook or MySpace.
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• Don’t ignore her because you think girls like a bad boy. Most women just want a nice genuine guy.
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• Once you’ve been talking for a while online, ask her out sooner rather than later because remember guys.... she will be speaking to other guys.

Ok so you’ve been online and found TheOneThatYouWant, well for this date at least! Here are some top tips about dating.........

Golden Dating Rules for Men:

• Look your best. Get some decent clothes and shoes. Women always look at your shoes. If you can't take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of her?
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• Sort out your hygiene and styling. Go down to the barbers, get your hair styled if possible. If you don't have much hair, still get down to the barbers, maybe get your head shaved.
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• Women want a man who has some ambition in life. Any job is better than none, but knuckle down and sort out some direction in your life. Know what you are about work wise and have some idea of your future plans because women will ask questions about your prospects. Even if they pretend it isn't important, it is, trust me on this. It's the first thing they will look for.
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• Do not talk about being in the pub 5 nights a week with the lads. This will never win any woman over. If you spend all your time boozing with the boys, it's time to take a step back and pick up some more productive habits.
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• Keep your boy hobbies in check. If you love your sports and enjoy watching the football with your mates, fine. If sport is a religion and you have your favorite player’s number tattooed on your back, you may have a problem. And if you spend 8 hours a day online playing with wizards and warlocks, try and cut down or quit! It's a complete turn off!
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• Never expect sex on a first date. If all you are after is sex visit a different type of online dating site.
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• Brush up on manners, courtesy and chivalry. A woman likes being treated with respect.
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• Never ever check out other women in her company!
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• Never talk about all the other hot women you’ve dated/dating, it’s rude; and doesn’t make a woman feel good.
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• Never make her feel like she is competing with a dozen other women, women like to feel special; not like they are in a long line of women.
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• Start listening and stop talking. Keep your date interested but don't turn into a one-man show. She will bore of you quickly because she wants to talk about herself too. Listen to things she tells you about her and remember them. Women love to chat so you need to learn to listen to her. Remembering things she told you will impress her even more.
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• Remember guys, the secret to dating women is to make them feel special and wanted; don’t act like a player or the next Hugh Hefner, it's not cool. Remember, if you like them, tell them, and treat them well.

The most successful guys at online dating are the ones who are caring, loving and respectful.

Online Dating Advice for Women

Online Dating Advice for Women: (For women’s eyes only, men stop reading immediately! We don’t want you knowing our Secrets.)

Getting the guys online: The rules of the game

•Always let them come to you. Never chase them online (it’s a complete turn off no matter what you look like.)

•Post the best and hottest photo's you can find and more than one preferably, but make sure it is an accurate photo. Guys will immediately compare your real self to your picture.

•Let yourself be chased, guys are naturally competitive so let them be men. Men, despite what they say, enjoy 'The thrill of the chase.'

•Always reply to emails at least 3 hours after receiving it, never instantly. Don't play games. Just let them know you are not desperate.

•Always date safely and protect yourself, never go to a guy’s house for the first date.

•If you don't want to date married or attached men, spell it out in your profile.

•Don't even think about misrepresenting your size or description. They will find out. I refer back to the point about being honest in your photo.

•Come across as cool but approachable for the best results. Don't try to hard to convince a guy your not desperate, this can back fire!

Golden Dating Rules

•This goes without saying, but look great always. Now I don’t mean go mad and pile on the slap but do make some effort. Men are visual creatures and he will notice. More to the point he will think you have made no effort.

•Never reveal information you don't have to. For instance don’t talk about your ex’s or tell him that this time next year you hope to be married. A mysterious woman drives men wild, and these things MAY put him of.

•Keep dates brief, but your men interested. Less is always more.

•If he offers, let your man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab. Having said this, don't take advantage, do offer to put your hand in your pocket, selfishness is a very unattractive thing. Never offering to pay or go halves will be soon noticed by a man.

•Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady's prerogative. Strike a balance, he will expect you to be a little late, so stick with this. Anything more is just rudeness.

•Now I’ve mentioned this once but I’ll say it again. Never ever talk about previous boyfriends, particularly their prowess in the bedroom. Your ex-boyfriends are your business only.

•Never assume anything about your date until you choose to get to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking.

•Never ever come across as too available or too desperate. He will run a mile.

•If you want a child, don't mention it on the first few dates.

•Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.

•Do not psychoanalyze a man, I don't care if you have a degree in psychology, don't do it. It's rude and inappropriate. Find things out naturally, not by force. It's a real turn off.

Please Girls, remember that you are a sexy, hot woman and the world is your oyster, and there are plenty of hot single guys that would love to date you. Always stay safe, never risk yourself and make sure you use a safe online dating website.