Online Dating – Where to go on a date.
I am sure you all have your own ideas for this and we would never dictate to you where you should be taking your date. However, dating in general does have a certain set of rules that will help your date be as successful as possible.
The aim of a FIRST date is to initially find out if you like the person. Not necessarily in terms of looks, because you will have established that pretty quickly if you haven’t already; but to see if you are compatible socially and to gauge the other person personally. So, you need to choose a dating location that isn't detrimental to your evening.
Where ever you choose to go on a date, the ability to talk without being interrupted by others is imperative. Also choosing somewhere where you are likely to bump into people you know may be obstructive to your evening.
Choose an activity you can do together and not something that separates you. Sometimes being too creative can appear a bit too heavy going and be off putting to your date. There is always date ONE and TWO for this. Likewise with picking really expensive evenings that may make your date feel awkward OR make you look like you’re trying too hard. These things can have a negative effect!
Loud music is a big obstacle while on a first date, this often prevents good conversation.
What works well on a date is a comfortable environment where other couples may go to socialize. Meeting for a coffee or even lunch in a nice bar or pub is an option. Sometimes meeting in a shopping centre for a drink and a mooch round the shops will help you to get a sense of what the other person likes and opens up some great conversation.
Dating is a ritual and before most dates it is normal to be nervous. This is often because of ‘fear of the unknown.’ We meet new people all the time, but with 'dating' there is a certain level of pressure and uncertainty that meeting other people in every day life doesn’t bring.
One way to ease the pressure during dating or prior to going on a date is to call your date up. This allows you to understand their social and emotional behavior better and form a more grounded relationship. Hearing a voice is important and something you cannot gauge just by email.
If your online dating is going well and you are successfully arranging dates, it is safe to assume at this point you have exchanged numbers. A quick call a few days before and maybe on the day to make sure everything is going ahead as planned is ok. If you wanted to add a bit of quirkiness to it, call your date if you are first to arrive, ask them what they would like from the bar!
Of course your expectations are more likely to be met if you chat over the phone, as it is quite easy to build up an image in your mind of what your date will sound like as well as look like. Too many surprises while dating can sometimes be a distraction. Dating should be a fun and enjoyable experience, so ensure that your evening goes without a glitch.
