Interview: Lee Mead

Interview: Lee Mead

Main Profile Image Advice

The One That You Want.com Online Profile Main Photos Advice:

Your photo is the first thing most people will look at, so ensure it is clear & bright and in a nice setting. More importantly your image needs to be approved by our admin team at TOTYW. To help you understand what is acceptable and what is not, TOTYW gives examples: We may delete you membership if you continue to supply poor quality images.

Good photos For Main image profile (we will NOT approve poor quality photo’s or photo's that breach our terms). Face must be clear and try to limit background by cropping it yourself or using our cropping tool. Head, Head & Shoulder or Top Half if clear.

Bad photos For Main Image Profile (We will N approve bad photo’s)

No Children/Groups

No Sunglasses/Headgear

Over exposure/too bright

No Nudity/Partial

Poor quality/resolution

Too Dark

Too far away

TOTYW may also reject any of the following if they are poor quality so it is best to avoid:

Webcam images/Mobile phone images

Images you have taken yourself

Images where We can’t see the whole face

Wearing head accessories (caps, Sunglasses)

Dull facial expression

Online Dating: First Date Nerves:

Online Dating: First Date Nerves:

Ok Ladies and Gentlemen you’ve found the potential match online and have arranged that all important first date. Now I know a lot of people out there let their nerves get the better of them. So we have created some top hints and tips for you..

1. Be interested and interesting. Make eye contact with your date, smile and listen. Your date will feel at ease if you take interest in them. This in turn will help you feel at ease and enjoy the date more.

2. You can’t remain silent the whole date, but if you are uncomfortable talking about yourself ask them some questions too break the ice.

3. Make sure you use open ended questions i.e. ‘Do you work?’ Closed question ‘What do you work as?’ Open question.

4. Find something you have in common. Are you both movie buffs? Or have you shared a similar experience i.e. travelling.

5. Add in a compliment, but don’t go overboard something along the lines of ‘I like your shirt or dress’ is adequate at this stage .

Please remember ladies and gents, it is not an interview, you don’t need to list all your achievements, just find out if there’s that all important spark.

Remember, if the person isn’t your perfect match, there are plenty more daters out there and you have just been given the perfect opportunity to practise you dating techniques.

Good Luck TheOneThatYouWant x

Online Dating Advice: It’s looking good ........

Online Dating Advice: It’s looking good....

You don’t have to be a genius to figure out if someone likes you or not. However while concentrating on having an enjoyable evening, you don’t want to be worrying about whether your date likes you or not. Below, are some simple hot tips that will help you gauge whether you’re date is attracted to you; or if they are the potential OneThatYouWant. This applies to both men and women.

1.Does your date greet you with a smile? What is their immediate reaction to you?

2.Does your date constantly check their watch? This may suggest that the time they wish to spend with you is limited.

3.Does your date make a point about when they need to leave? Furthermore do they accept or decline that one last drink at the end of the night. Accepting one last drink may suggest that they want to spend as much time as possible with you.

4.Is your date focused on you, or are they too interested in what or who else is happening in the room?

5.Do they ask you questions about yourself? If they are interested in you then they are interested in what you are about.

So you’ve had the first date, now check out the below post date advice to see if you’ve found TheOneThatYouWant!

6.Generally if your date went well he or she will thank you for a lovely evening (probably by text/email) and suggest doing it again soon.

7.Keep an eye on those kisses (on text). If you get one kiss, that’s a good start, two kisses and you’re in; three and you’ve cracked it.

8.How soon after the first date do you arrange that all important second date? If it’s within a week then your full steam ahead!

Have fun guys and gals and always remember there’s plenty more fish in the sea.

Online Dating Safety Tips

Online Dating Safety Tips

Online dating is the best possible way to meet new people you never normally would have come into contact with. Every year, thousands of people get together or even marry as a result of meeting on an online dating website. Millions of people in the UK are using online dating right now and as a general rule, online dating is regarded as a safe medium for meeting potential partners.

However we want to ensure your online dating experience is as safe and fun as possible. So below we have created 10 top tips for Online Dating.

1. Trust Your Gut. Your gut feeling is a powerful medium for knowing when something doesn't feel right. As you are searching for TheOneThatYouWant and are browsing profiles, responding to emails and meeting people for dates your instincts help tell you if something is "right" or if something is not quite right. The "not quite right" message is your cue to be careful....Always trust your gut!

2. Never Provide Personal Information Too Soon. Your home phone number and full name provide easy ways to track who you are and where you live. So keep your personal information personal until you get to know the individual.

3. Ask for a Recent Photo. There's nothing wrong in asking someone if their photos are recent. If they don't have a photo, request a recent one. It's important for you to get a good look at the person you may eventually meet.

4. Stick with Paid Online Dating Websites. Free online dating services provide a great opportunity for potentially dangerous individuals. They don't even have to provide a credit card or other information that identifies them. There is truth in saying, "you get what you pay for".

5. Make your own way there. Provide your own transportation to your public meeting place and make sure you have a way of getting home i.e. taxis numbers in your phone and cash or petrol in your car.

6. Always let a friend or family member know where you are going. Make sure someone knows where you are going and who you'll be with. You might even consider arranging a time to call and check in. Or you could arrange to meet up with a friend later that night.

7. Arrange to meet them. When meeting for the first time, never allow your date to pick you up from your home.

8. Meet in a Public Place for Your First Meeting. When it's time for that first exciting face-to-face meeting, arrange to meet in a public place. Your initial meeting will tell you a lot about the other person, including whether or not he/she lied in their profile.

9. Alcohol will affect your judgment. The biggest threat to your judgment is alcohol. Not only does it affect your judgment, but alcohol also lessens your inhibitions. Don’t get so drunk that you don’t know what you are doing, and if possible try to avoid alcohol on your first date.

10. Always remain alert. Even if you’re having a great time and everything’s going really well, it’s still a good idea to remain alert the whole evening.

By following these tips you will help protect yourself from any potential dangers. With that in mind, thousands of people have fulfilling relationships from online dating. As you can see, the experience can be both safe and rewarding.

Online Dating Advice: Writing a Winning Profile

Writing a Winning Profile

Your online personal profile can be a terrific tool to endear TheOneThatYouWant. Using the online dating route is a good idea because it gives you the opportunity to meet people outside of your normal circle of friends and colleagues.

The way you write a personal online profile is crucial: it will mean the difference between finding TheOneThatYouWant and falling flat.

There's something about your ad ...Follow these simple steps and increase your chances of finding TheOneThatYouWant!

Talk yourself up ... but stay sincere and true. What qualities do you have that another dater maybe looking for? What would your friends say your best qualities are? It’s essential that you mention these in your online dating profile. Don't be afraid to be honest about your good points, after all that's what other daters are looking for.

Keep the style fun and not too formal. 'If you have fun writing it, the reader will likely have fun reading it,' says author Evan Marc Katz in I Can't Believe I'm Buying This Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating (Ten Speed Press, 2003). In writing about who you are as well as about what characteristics you're looking for, write the way you talk, in a creative way that will win people over and warm them to you.

Choose words carefully. Ok, if you see an online profile with ‘looking for a wealthy man’ or ‘wanted.... stunning woman’. Most people will think you are a gold digger, superficial or shallow. However what you are actually looking for is a partner; who is ambitious or fit, and this is much less offensive. Words have a huge impact in the world of online dating, after all words are your tools.

Read over what you're about to submit online. Review your writing so it's grammatically correct and typo-free. You would be amazed what you can forget OR mistype. Other daters WILL pick up on this.

Keep It Positive: Please Peeps....

Online Dating – Where to go on A Date.

Online Dating – Where to go on a date.

I am sure you all have your own ideas for this and we would never dictate to you where you should be taking your date. However, dating in general does have a certain set of rules that will help your date be as successful as possible.

The aim of a FIRST date is to initially find out if you like the person. Not necessarily in terms of looks, because you will have established that pretty quickly if you haven’t already; but to see if you are compatible socially and to gauge the other person personally. So, you need to choose a dating location that isn't detrimental to your evening.

Where ever you choose to go on a date, the ability to talk without being interrupted by others is imperative. Also choosing somewhere where you are likely to bump into people you know may be obstructive to your evening.

Choose an activity you can do together and not something that separates you. Sometimes being too creative can appear a bit too heavy going and be off putting to your date. There is always date ONE and TWO for this. Likewise with picking really expensive evenings that may make your date feel awkward OR make you look like you’re trying too hard. These things can have a negative effect!

Loud music is a big obstacle while on a first date, this often prevents good conversation.

What works well on a date is a comfortable environment where other couples may go to socialize. Meeting for a coffee or even lunch in a nice bar or pub is an option. Sometimes meeting in a shopping centre for a drink and a mooch round the shops will help you to get a sense of what the other person likes and opens up some great conversation.

Dating is a ritual and before most dates it is normal to be nervous. This is often because of ‘fear of the unknown.’ We meet new people all the time, but with 'dating' there is a certain level of pressure and uncertainty that meeting other people in every day life doesn’t bring.

One way to ease the pressure during dating or prior to going on a date is to call your date up. This allows you to understand their social and emotional behavior better and form a more grounded relationship. Hearing a voice is important and something you cannot gauge just by email.

If your online dating is going well and you are successfully arranging dates, it is safe to assume at this point you have exchanged numbers. A quick call a few days before and maybe on the day to make sure everything is going ahead as planned is ok. If you wanted to add a bit of quirkiness to it, call your date if you are first to arrive, ask them what they would like from the bar!

Of course your expectations are more likely to be met if you chat over the phone, as it is quite easy to build up an image in your mind of what your date will sound like as well as look like. Too many surprises while dating can sometimes be a distraction. Dating should be a fun and enjoyable experience, so ensure that your evening goes without a glitch.